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[Desu-Goji]

No worrys, i used to like this girl alot in Jr. High and my best friend went out with her knowing that i like her, i was a bit upset and really angry, i also tried to start a fight but nah, nothing happend. Eventually, you'll get over her.

[Goji Son]

I can see what the girl is talking about with MM in the relationship.  MM, you pushed it man, she didn't love you and you wouldn't let it slide and she basically got fed up with you.  There will be others, trust me, there always are.  This was your first love and while yes, it is hard to let go of that first love you have to realize that she has a life of her own to live and you can't force yourself into it.  Both of you are VERY young, love will come again, just keep your eyes open that's all.

[rodan70]

<font color='#810541'>Girls suck. They usually NEVER care about what the guy thinks or feels. They like attention. And she sure got plenty of attention. I hate the way they like to play mindgames. Uggg. Just try your best to ignore her and she will get pissed off and go mess woth some other guy's head.

[Emperor Violenjiger]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (DBZelda7 @ May 19 2004,20:03)]wow, im sick of people complaining, whining, and generally being overlly melodramatic.

Anyone else agree with me on that?

YES! YES! YES!

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (DBZelda7 @ May 19 2004,20:15)]Whatever...

perhaps I'm the only completely realistic person here who doesn't allow all-encompasing emotions to effect my entire persona, but rather look at things as they really are.

What is the use of dwelling over a girl that obviously doesn't like you? &nbsp;Well, there's...no. &nbsp;Or you could...no. &nbsp;Oh wait, that's right, THERE IS NONE!!

Sure, I've liked plenty of girls. &nbsp;I've been rejected. &nbsp;I said, &quot;well, that's too bad&quot; and WEN'T ON WITH MY LIFE!!

Man DBZ, you are my new Role model on the Roost!

Not to sound mean, but MM was NEVER in love. You're going through a phase of infatuation MM, you should be focusing on other things and not crying over a relationship that failed (most relationships do in this modern day and age). If there is such a thing as love then it's bound to come in the later years... 15's too young to want to die for someone else. Too young.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Andross @ May 19 2004,22:28)]Some people just think its cool to be completely emotionless about everything.

[Komissar]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]Not to sound mean, but MM was NEVER in love. You're going through a phase of infatuation MM, you should be focusing on other things and not crying over a relationship that failed (most relationships do in this modern day and age). If there is such a thing as love then it's bound to come in the later years... 15's too young to want to die for someone else. Too young.

I know that it's too young to really want to die for someone else (seriously, are you ever old enough?), but you don't know what's in his head, you aren't the angel/devil sitting on his shoulder. I know most relationships fail, but that doesn't cheapen them any! From what I've seen, he was in love, at least at some point. Only he can or can not corroborate that, not any of us...

And rodan70, you appear to have quite a mess to clean up...

[Jet Jaguar]

What a bunch of whiny cry-babys
No man has ever understood women, and you wont either
GET OVER IT
There are plenty of girls to choose from
Take your time
You got the Summer
USE IT WISELY
OMG what a bunch of girly-girls post here!

[Emperor Violenjiger]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Dark Warrior @ May 20 2004,10:52)]

With me...yeah,pretty much.Others will probably have there own opinions,but thats mine.

Maybe if People were more open this problem wouldn't exist? Heh.. either that or I'm an idiot.

[ALLOSAURZ]

Download kazaa. Then do a search for an ebook called Double You Dating by David DeAngelo. Read and apply what he says. Problem solved

[The Great MM]

You know what, Lord K, JJ, DBZ, etc, all of you who think I wasn't in love, I have two things to say to all of you, I won't be surprised if I get a warning or not, BUT #### YOU ALL. You have no idea what my life is like, you have no idea the #### that I go through, and the #### that runs through my mind. Danielle was one of those things actually brought me at peace, actually made me fall a sleep, something I actually cared out. Now shes gone from my life, and what do you have to say &quot;You wern't in love&quot;

Personally, all of you digust me.

And maybe if you ever actually lose the girl of your dreams, you will feel the same thing I am now.

[Tomzilla]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Lord Khandejifer @ May 20 2004,17:30)]

Sorry for disgusting you, Monster Master. But I am afraid that I do not have a &quot;girl of my dreams.&quot; I don't believe in destined lovers, and soul mates for I don't believe that relationships are meant to last forever, either. If I were you I would just try my best to get over her and move on to bigger things.

Note: I'm not insulting your opinion on this matter, I'm just making a point.

You are entitled to your opinion, like every one else in the world, but I'm sure you know not everyone feels the way you do. Thus, how exactly can you help them? And what gives you the right to tell someone to get over something and claiming they never experienced love, when they share a different outlook on the emotion as a whole? The answer is you really don't have a right--you do have the choice, just it is common courtesy to at least open your eyes and see that if someone doesn't think the same way you do on a certain subject, then you can't help them and it would be a waste of time for both people.

You've already made your opinion on this scenario clear. Now there is no need to continue. There is no need to accuse people who have emotions and share their pain with us on this matter that they are 'whining and are irritating'.

Point is, have you ever experienced Love yourself? Do you know people? No, truth is you only know yourself. And this doesn't just apply to you. If you are lonely and never try to reach out with anyone, then you will never truly know anyone. MM, however, had reached out and knew someone who he considered to be very special, in yet now his heart had been crushed from the thing he feared the most.

In order to tell someone to 'get over it', you'd need to understand the person and their emotions--they're basic outlook on life. But you don't know MM, nor do I. All I know is he said he loves this girl and now his heart had been broken because she made a decision. Whether he loved her for real or not we don't know--thus, we take the information we have directly from the person.

With that, I hope you do find peace eventually MM. You may mourn and feel pain for quite some time, but it is only a testament and a prelude to help you discover that when you do find your soul-mate--you will love her, care for her and show her respect. Because if anyone can care for another the way you did for her and see how easily you were hurt as a result, then that just tells you that you do have feelings--feelings that can be filled with any emotion, directed to any one. And when that time finally comes and you've found the love of your life, you will know right then that you'll treat her right, because you know how your feelings work and how they can be hurt.

Take is easy and even if it would bring more sorrow, focus on both the good and the bad experiences you had with her. Then let the situation be judged accordingly by your heart. After a while, choose your new path and start from there and live again.

[kent]

^ Very good Tom! I feel MM's pain. I've been there myself. And, like some posters on here, I've had friends and relatives tell me that I would just get over her in the blink of an eye. I would have yelled at them and what have you, but didn't. I just ignored them and even told some of them that they weren't me and didn't know how I feel.
Even to this day, I do think about her no and then and miss her a little bit, but time helped heal my wounds. While some people need more time than others, time does heal. While I understand what you've gone through, MM, the only healer is time.

[The Great MM]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Baryonyx13 @ May 20 2004,22:25)]Thank you Tom. I myself had written a really long post on this earlier, but when I went to post it the site seemed to be down...

LK, shut up. It's pretty obvious from this topic and the true love one you have no real kind of emotional attactment to memebers of the opposite sex. Ok, we get it. No one has said anything about that to you, but you must go and tell someone who has such feelings that they are wrong. They aren't. You don't need to post on this anymore.

And how can any of you say love at our age is just hormones? Just about everyone on these boards is around 15-17. It's not like you've grown up and realized &quot;Wow, I never loved anyone before, it was my raging hormones!&quot; You're still our age. So yall shut about that too.

MM, I feel ya man. I too have had girls I'm just completley head over heels reject me. You just gotta move on from it. I know you heard it at least 300 times, but it's true. You can't dwell on this girl.

I don't mean &quot;Come on man, stop being a p*ssy and get your chin up&quot; These things take time. It's terrible to be hurt by your close friend and object of your affections. Be upset for awhile. It's alowed. Just don't let this ruin other stuff in your life. Believe me, alot worse stuff will happen than this.

And come on man, you lost the girl of your dreams? Don't try and tell yourself that. It seems to me you never had her. It's alot better this happened than you be crazy over her for however long and her never feel the same way back, ya know?

Just don't get mad at all these emotionless a**holes. If anything you should be sad for them. I'm not sure what their problems are. Maybe they can't get girls, so they write off love as teenage hormones and say that they are above it. Just don't let it get to you. I know you're bigger than that.

Plus, you know you could kick their asses if you ever met, so what's the big deal?

All is ok with me and Danielle, where talking again and everything. Like I said before, she was having a bad day like I do a few times, and say some things she didn't mean, we are all guilty of that, I should have just realized it, and not burned my hand... &nbsp;

And for the last thing...

yea, Lord K and DBZ, you better watch it, or MM will come and lay the smack down on your candy asses! &nbsp; j/k

[Baryonyx13]

<font color='#000080'>Whoops, my post was a little late...

Congrats though, hope it works out this time. Just don't try so hard this time, tellin her you love her and all. Just let things run their course with her boyfriend for the time being. If I know teens of today, it won't last that long.


^Just my two cents anyway. Again, the best of luck.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Baryonyx13 @ May 20 2004,22:25)]And how can any of you say love at our age is just hormones? Just about everyone on these boards is around 15-17. It's not like you've grown up and realized &quot;Wow, I never loved anyone before, it was my raging hormones!&quot; You're still our age. So yall shut about that too.

I'm 19, and yes, I do look back and say &quot;damn, that was all hormones.&quot; Yes, I spent a significant amount of time being a hormone-driven young man. I'm since out of that, thank God. You reach a point when those obsessive feelings go away. I think it's a natural sign of being in your early to mid teens, but it's no good. It's not good at all to &quot;love&quot; someone if you haven't even been on a date with them. Women even that age don't harbor such feelings until later on, and a mature male does the same.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Monster Master @ May 20 2004,22:24)]MM happy, MM happy, MM happy!

Me and Danny are talking again. Me and Danny are talking again!

I hate to tell you this, but I've been there too. The fact that you are still going to talk to her means you are still going to like her; and that means you're heading down another path to disaster. I can't put it any more clearer than that.

[mecha-kumonga]

<font color='#008080'>This is not an attack on anyone LK, DB Zelda something tells me you had something like this happen to you. Look we all have been hurt and I can see it in your writing either that you your just afriad of getting hurt. Its all right it does get better.

Now to MM. It sucks shes moving. And you will get over her but it will take some time. It's not immediate but it will happen. Just enjoy the time you do have. Also no one is worth hurting yourself over. It may seem like it but its not. When your angry like that its best to take it out on something else. Put a picture over a dart board and play darts, Take a bow and arrow or pellet gun out in the back yard and turn a gallon of milk to little plastic shreds, go ahead and do some zazen or (when you have your licence) drive until you have no clue were you are and then try and find your way back, note only do this on a weekend I once did such a good job it took me three days to get back home. I ended up in Ohio after a 14 hour drive and had to find my way back to little Rhode Island ended up doing it via Nashville and Myrtle Beach. Do anything but hurt yourself man trust me.

[Jet Jaguar]

Do not mistake my advice for emotionless babble
I have been there, done that, MORE TIMES THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE
I have had my heart broken
I have felt that pain.
And I AM in a relationship with the woman of my dreams, for going on 21 years now.
Longer than some of you have been ALIVE
True Love DOES exist, but it takes work and dedication on both ends.
And MM, I am happy for you if you're happy
But when I say Get over it
that means don't linger in your misery

[Tokyo VigilanteX]

Ive never been in love,so I can't relate very well(To busy with plans of world domination).
So I don't have that much time for a girl(Unless they can combine the DNA of a human and a plant)
Plus that,I live in the worest place to pick up a girl.

P.S.-Vote for reject in 2006!!

[Shadow]

<font color='#348781'>Great to hear that you two are talking again. Just don't let anything ruin what two you have going again.

[mecha-kumonga]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Lord Khandejifer @ May 21 2004,07:19)]

What are you, a mind reader?

<font color='#008080'>No but you do show the classic symptoms of being hurt by someone or coming so close to being hurt that you are afraid you will be. I have been there and said the same things heck the same exsact things in some cases. So what you have written kinda points in that general direction thats all.

[Goji Son]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]my parents are @$$es. &nbsp;I doubt that their going to live by the end of the year if this keeps up.

Whoa dude, cool your jets, their just toys. &nbsp;TOYS!!! &nbsp;Is there any use to make a statement like that over a couple of TOYS!?

[Fiender]

That's the thing. &nbsp;It's not just toys. &nbsp;I havn't had a soda in a month, I don't have birthday partys where I can invite friends, and I can't go to my friends' houses...Not that I have any friends... &nbsp;

[godofPH]

Originally Posted by godofPH

Hmm, my problem isnt serious, but an emotional problem nonetheless. Theres this girl I like. And theres this jock that likes her too. He says he doesn't but he ain't bullshittin me. I can tell she sorta likes him. I think she sees me as a friend. What should I do?

My worst fears have been confirmed, They are officialy going out and she found out that I like her. Damn,damn,damn,damn.

EDIT: I have to go jump off a building now.

[godofPH]

guess nobody cares then

[Raptor]

The "Woe is me!" response to such developments is quite normal and NOT a joke, by any means. Maybe the lack of response is because we had a similar situation here, with MM to be exact. If he would like, maybe he can update us on that.

At least no one jumps off buildings here because they're only two stories at the most and a grain silo or the water tower just doesn't seem that impressive...